In the past he has told me that my dad ignores me and my mom talks over me, then he told me that I am too close too my parents, that my umbelical cord is still attached and that I would probably get with my dad if I had the chance. Yesterday he called my dad a f'in abusing a**hole and told me that my daddy's issues fill him. I am close with my dad and always have been, and my ex denies it even though he wouldn't know because was only around my dad like 5 times... he says that I have all these problems because of my parents and that I need to deal with them. I do have an anger problem but it is not against my parents, they did the best they could. He was really strict about not letting my son do this and that... my friend told me yesterday that his mom wasn't there for him when he was sick because she was paying more attention to his brother and that his dad would drag him out into a cold car in the morning and that I should...Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:05 PM on Oct. 18, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 3:05 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:06 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Do a 4th step. Why does it bother YOU? You can only change you. You can only have control over your OWN actions and words, not his. Why bother deciphering HIM when YOU must look at YOU
Answer by Anonymous at 3:09 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by kimigogo at 3:17 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:18 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:20 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
If and when you do a 4th step (maybe through Al-Anon) you will see your patterns of behavior and then you can decide if you have those problems or not. Most likely he IS giving you his own "inventory" and really talking about himself, but if it's bothering you so much, maybe a little is true? If you don't do the work for yourself, you will always wonder if he's being truthful.
Answer by Anonymous at 3:54 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Counselling for yourself is never a bad thing. That way you can be heard though a neutral source that can help you sort out these things. A good therapist well take you on a journey and trust me you come out all the better person.
Answer by pnwmom at 4:26 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 4:39 PM on Oct. 18, 2009