My DD's (who is 15 months) biological father has not really been in the picture. Hes visited sporatically and has bought her clothes and one thing of diapers. For a couple of months, I tried SO hard to get him to come once a week but he couldnt even make that. So HE made the call and said we should tell her when she is old enough. So we agreed. Well, now..he is getting married in May and wants her as his flower girl. I dont think it is appropriate because he is never around and doesnt take care of her. I feel like she is a prize to him rather than his daugther. Even for her 1st bday it was ALL about HIM! HIS friends came...didnt pay attention to my DD for one second. It was so awkward for everyone. She screamed cuz she didnt know him and wasnt comfortable. Anyways...what do you think? You think I'm doing the right thing by not letting her be in his wedding?Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:34 PM on Oct. 18, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Gailll at 10:36 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:37 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
I wouldn't let her if she doesn't know him she won't feel comfortable there and will most likely not cooperate anyways. He can't just decide he wants to be a father once in a while when it's convenient for him. I hate when mothers keep there kids from seeing there dads out of vengeance for themselves but in cases like this I'd tell him he has til may to build a real father-daughter with her or she won't be in the wedding. If he doesn't make the effort you'll know what choice to make. Good luck.
Answer by jenae_gist at 10:40 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by jenae_gist at 10:41 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by prettyrayray at 10:43 PM on Oct. 18, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:41 AM on Oct. 19, 2009
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