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Have you ever had an affair?

Or been tempted to?


Asked by Anonymous at 12:46 PM on Oct. 19, 2009 in Relationships

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Answers (19)
  • I had an affair on my XH with my current DH. In this case, I was married to the wrong man, I was miserable, and yes I was totally wrong for having an affair, but I would have never left him otherwise, I met DH and fell MADLY in love. It was the hardest time of my life, I mean it was hell for everyone involved, but thank God I got out of my bad marriage and moved on. DH and I have been together now almost 12 years. I would never EVER cheat on him and I have never ever regretted what happened.

    Answer by gramsmom at 1:13 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • sadly yes i was soooo unhappy in my marriage that I did, but felt VERY gulity.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:48 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • No, I have not. I took vows and I love my husband.

    Answer by kasey22 at 12:50 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • I kissed someone else. I do not consider it an affair and I feel guilty. I do fantasize about other men sometimes...I don't know what to do about it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:54 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • No, I have not and have not been tempted to. I have a solid marriage and don't need to go elsewhere. It's not worth hurting someone else like that anyway.

    Answer by mom2BOYZnDad at 12:59 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • Tempted, yes. Did I follow through, no. Instead my husband and I talked about it and we fixed our marriage.

    Answer by purpleducky at 1:00 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • I've never been unfaithful. I have no desire to be either. It's not that I don't notice other men... it's just that I love my husband very much, and I could never hurt him like that. I couldn't sleep with someone I didn't love, either, and I definately have not been in love with anyone else.

    I can't condemn people who have had affairs, though. I don't think humans were ever meant to be completely monogomous for their lifetime. It's a choice that we make. As an individual, I just couldn't cheat, though.

    Answer by Ati_13 at 1:00 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • Having an affair never solves anything. I could never be unfaithful, and if it ever happened to me, my heart would break. I could never stay with someone who cheated on me.

    Answer by JackieGirl007 at 1:06 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • yes. during the last year of our marriage (about 2 years ago), i had an affair with a good friend. life was miserable with my ex- whom, had refused to have sex with me since the birth of out first son 2 years earlier. on the single occasion that he was inclined to show any physical affection, our second son was conceived.

    i do not have any regrets, except for the fact that he got caught in the circle of violence that my ex husband created, and that i lived with for years. it was unfair of me to expose him to that- seeing that up until then, the only person he took his anger out on physically, was me.
    here i am, two years later, out of the nightmare, divorced, and happy as can be.

    i could NEVER be unfaithful to someone who i love, i simply do not have it in me. i did not love my ex, i am not sure that i ever did.

    Answer by ObbyDobbie at 1:49 PM on Oct. 19, 2009

  • From some of these posters it seems like it's ok to have an affair as long as you say you 'never loved your husband?' Um, that's still an affair!

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:51 PM on Oct. 19, 2009