My mother and I have always been extremely close, But over the last couple of years we have been having a problem with her favoring my oldest son. This has caused a few cross words between us but nothing major. Well, the last 6 months or so she has really been pushing me to let my oldest son live with her. I have made my position clear that I will not let him move in with her and that I really did not want to discuss it anymore. But every time she calls or sees me it seems that it is all she wants to talk about. She has even tried guilt using my dying father. Saying that he needs my son there for company. I have tried telling her that he is not moving in with her and it is final. On Saturday she called and spent about 20 mins. talking about it. I tried to change the subject and I tried again to make my point clear but she wouldn't give up so I got so frustrated that I finally told her that I did not want to talk to her CONT.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 3:23 AM on Oct. 20, 2009 in Relationships
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Have you considered that your mother may be scared out of her mind and all she is looking for is someone to be with her? Of course, she would never admit that to you because it would make her look weak in your eyes. Why don't you ask her some questions and try to determine what her real motivations are. If you are then convinced that she is simply trying to steal your son, then you will know that you cannot allow that. If it's because she is afraid of being alone, then maybe you all can work something out. I know that when my dad died, my nephew stayed with my mom quite a lot because none of us wanted her to be alone, knowing that she was afraid, especially at night. It always pays to dig a little deeper into these kinds of issues to see what the real motivations are.
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