I send my four children with clean clothes (of course) when they visit their dad, but they always send the clothes back dirty (even if it's a week long summer visit). I'm wondering how many of you get back clean clothes when your children come back from a visit. To me it just seems like common courtesy. I haven't made a big deal about it or anything, I was just wondering. My major issue with it is that the stains are set in by the time I get the clothes back. I have even tried sending a stain stick. Now I send play clothes and he gets annoyed. I've gotten my younger two back in dirty clothes because something got wet and they didn't have anything clean to put them in. It won't hurt them, but yuck.Answer Question
Answer by tyfry7496 at 9:51 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
Answer by mammacjjc85 at 9:51 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
Answer by heartfrommyson at 10:00 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
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Answer by seashore29 at 10:13 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
I'm a custodial SM. BM has been providing the clothes during the time my DSS visits with her but, there was a time when she needed us to send clothes. I SAH so I'm always the one to get everything ready. I'd pack weather appropriate outfits & pj's with everything freshly washed & neatly folded. BM rarely washes his clothes. So, in the summer, if she asked for his swim trunks, I packed a plastic bag for her to put the wet trunks in. While he was potty training, I also packed plastic bags for urine soaked undies. This did not stop her from sending home wet or urine soaked clothes just mixed in with everything else, no apologies or explanation.
Answer by BubbaLuva at 10:27 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
Answer by prdill08 at 10:27 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
On the rare occasions she washed clothes they were never folded & didn't smell fresh so I would end up re-doing it. Personally, I can't imagine sending the other parent dirty clothes habitually. If nothing else I would at least hand wash the peed on clothes, hell I've done that plenty of times at home. I'd be embarrased. I mean things happen but, if I know I'm sending dirty clothes I'd at least apologize for the inconvenience.Â If BM was reasonable I'd say something but, she's not. I'm with you, if they can't care for the damn clothes they have NO business complaining about the playÂ clothes. Sending the stain stick is another thing I'd do, too:) How would they like it if we sent the kids for their visits in dirty clothes?
Answer by BubbaLuva at 10:41 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
At least your x sends the clothes back, BM keeps clothes & claims to have no idea what we are reffering to when we ask for them back. UGH, I feel your pain. Send the play clothes, they are lucky you send them anything, plenty of non custodial parents have to provide their own clothing for the kids. Just remember, if this is your biggest problem, you're lucky:)
Answer by BubbaLuva at 10:42 PM on Oct. 20, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:43 PM on Oct. 20, 2009