My sister told me to sign up for Cafemom (she has an account) and ask this question, because she said I will be astounded by the people who agree with her. Okay fine. I am hesitant, but here it goes. First off, my sister refuses to visit me at my house because she cannot even be around my husband. The main things are that he won't let me cut my hair (its past my butt), because he says women with short hair are unattractive and if I cut my hair, he will cheat. So I haven't cut it in 12 years, only trimmed. He also scrapes the entire nights dinner into the trash if he doesn't approve of the way it came out. I have to be home by 10pm, no exceptions. My friends can only be are members of our church. I once went to the movies with a former high school friend and he flipped. I don't have a cell phone because he says women run up the bill gabbing about nonsense. We have 2 boys, and (continued)Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 12:18 AM on Oct. 21, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by Anonymous at 12:21 AM on Oct. 21, 2009
Answer by jessil83 at 12:21 AM on Oct. 21, 2009
Answer by jessil83 at 12:22 AM on Oct. 21, 2009
I dont know if I would call that abuse, but it is for sure controlling, disrespectful, and not accepting behavior. I personally would never be with someone who treated me that way. My husband doesnt always like what I cook either, but he doesnt waste food by disrespectfully dumping it in the trash he just casually makes himself something else to eat. He also doesnt like short hair, but would not try to tell me what to do and especially wouldnt tell me he would cheat on me for cutting it, its only hair, it will grow back. I guess its not what you do its how you do it and he is doing it badly and over the top. He could still have his opinions without control and rudeness.
Answer by EarthMom6 at 12:27 AM on Oct. 21, 2009
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Answer by moniquinha at 12:28 AM on Oct. 21, 2009
Just read the rest of your question too, my husband and I are fairly old fashioned in our views and my husbands not an asshole. If he is the king of his castle then you are the queen. While the roles are different they both deserve respect.
Answer by EarthMom6 at 12:30 AM on Oct. 21, 2009
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Answer by Abbey3 at 12:36 AM on Oct. 21, 2009