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i have a 2month old baby and the father wants to be on child suppport but i dont want him to be since he has never helped me from day one and the baby has my last name what do i do im so affraid he will take my baby

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 12:50 PM on Oct. 21, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • Go file for custody and support before he does. If he gets there first he can file for custody and support from you! You have to file for custody not just assume you have it.
    Gailll

    Answer by Gailll at 12:53 PM on Oct. 21, 2009

  • He wants to help out financially, it has nothing to do with custody. If he does pay support your babies last name doesn't have to change, but they will have to establish paternity. Consult an attorney, the first visit is usually free, then you will have solid advice. GL
    MrsLeftlane

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 12:53 PM on Oct. 21, 2009

  • Paying support doesnt necessarily mean visitation.

    If you are concerned, go to court and get it all in writing and make sure your fears are known and try and get supervised visitations for him so you dont have that fear of him taking your child.
    Amaranth361

    Answer by Amaranth361 at 1:27 PM on Oct. 21, 2009

  • 1. He has an obligation to help with his child financially
    2. You have the right to receive financial help for your child from him.
    3. He does have the right to see his child. Would it really be that terrible if your child had a relationship with his/her father?
    4. He cannot just "take your baby" from you. It has to go through the courts, and he would have to prove that the child is better off in his care than yours.
    5. Your baby's last name doesn't have to change.

    So, go see an attorney. File for support AND custody. Unless you have a good reason (like past abuse of a child) be willing to let the father see your baby.
    Cavalrybaby02

    Answer by Cavalrybaby02 at 2:06 PM on Oct. 21, 2009

  • just let him give you money without the courts! sounds like he would be a great dad why did you end it?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:23 PM on Oct. 21, 2009

  • invite him over to see the baby a few times a month?
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 PM on Oct. 21, 2009

  • DO NOT MAKE IT UGLY!
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:24 PM on Oct. 21, 2009

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