Maybe it's just me but I have been seeing quite a few post regarding this issue. I have mixed feelings on it, because and not to offend anyone - these are just my thoughts and feelings but... It seems like your selling your unborn child to the family that can pay your living expenses, but if no family can pay your expenses what happens? Your still pregnant with the same bills, If you were pregnant or not you would still have these expenses so why is it ok to ask a family who has their own bills and who are probably saving for the child their hoping to adopt and give everything to, why is it alright to ask them.. Because they want a baby? I think this is wrong -if your considering placement - the best family should of course be considered but again 'To Me' - not the family thats willing to throw money at you to get the baby. There are alot scams also when these mothers get your money and keep their baby.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:24 AM on Oct. 22, 2009 in Adoption
Answer by Southernroots at 11:34 AM on Oct. 22, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 11:58 AM on Oct. 22, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:08 PM on Oct. 22, 2009
Answer by frogdawg at 3:30 PM on Oct. 22, 2009
I know what you mean about selling the baby. In the same way it could be considered buying a baby. There is a problem there because the expectant mom could feel like she cannot change her mind and parent the baby because she owes the paps.
In my case I had several expenses that needed to be paid. I had no health insurance, so all my pre-natal and hospital expenses needed to be paid and while I couldn't work because of the pregnancy (I was a server in a restaurant) I needed my rent, food, travel expenses paid also. All these expenses were incurred because of the pregnancy and would have had to have been paid by the paps had amom been pregnant with what is now their child.
I did not sell my baby. I did not make any money. In fact I lost money because while they were paying my living expenses during the time I couldn't work, I didn't ask them to compensate me my whole pay check.
Answer by onethentwins at 3:42 PM on Oct. 23, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:34 PM on Oct. 23, 2009
Answer by randi1978 at 10:14 AM on Oct. 24, 2009
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 1:27 PM on Oct. 24, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:22 PM on Oct. 24, 2009
Anon 4:34 - "I dont know what you mean."
I mean, if my sons amom had been pregnant with him instead of me, then she would have had to pay her pregnancy medical expenses and living expenses during her maternity leave. Yes, it cost them a lot of money, but none of it ended up in my pocket. It went to the OB and the hospital and my landlord. Had I not been pregnant with what became her child, then I wouldn't have had prenatal and delivery expenses, and I wouldn't have been on maternity leave. Believe me, by the time I was well enough to go back to work I was quite broke.
Plus, there was no way I could have made enough money to pay those bills myself, and I was ineligible for Medicaid or disability unless I'd gone home to England.
Answer by onethentwins at 5:00 PM on Oct. 24, 2009
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