Hold onto her hands. You're stronger than she is.
One of the misunderstandings adults have about kids is their ability to do 'mean' things.
She is not a short, cute adult, capable of thinking like an adult. Your daughter is no doubt tremendously advanced for her age, already living on her own and grocery shopping or whatever, but her brain is undeveloped, compared to an adult.
When she's 12, she'll begin to understand abstractions like 'how would you feel if...' When she's about 7, she'll begin to understand that the ball falls to the ground every single time it's dropped, even if 'it doesn't feel like it.' Somewhere between 2 and 3, she'll begin to understand how to follow a moving target, where to step and how to change course.
Presently she lacks the ability to form intent --that is, to understand how to hurt someone intentionally. Even the courts get this.
She needs you to watch her and to stop her.
at 12:38 PM on Oct. 23, 2009