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she will not stay in bed !!!!

our 27 month old will not stay in bed when we put her down. no matter what we say or do, it seems we walk out and within 2 minutes she is right back up and out of bed. she gets up early and has decided that naps are not in the cards for her anymore. she does have rest time in the afternoon, but on rare days she will just fall asleep for alil bit as a nap, this just makes the bedtime fight go on even later. i am not sure what to do. she has a routine, she even runs to bed when she knows it is nite nite, but refuses to stay in her bed !!!!! please help ?

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Asked by lilredsfrm67 at 8:44 PM on Oct. 23, 2009 in Toddlers (1-2)

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  • Set your bedtime routine bath, OJs potty story drink goodnight. Then when she gets up the first time you say "It's time to go to sleep, walk her back tuck her in and say goodnight and leave. The second time..walk her back to bed and say goodnight. Everytime after that you just walk her back to bed immediately and say nothing. Even if it takes 30 times. She will learn it just may take some time. Each time the number of times will probably be reduced. Good luck.

    Answer by GrnEyedGrandma at 9:03 PM on Oct. 23, 2009

  • I lost the fight, DS sleeps on the floor now. He sleeps better and its way easier to get him to sleep at night. We get blanky, he lays down with a car and a stuffed animal, turn out the lights and is asleep a few min later. When we stopped having a struggle at bedtime, he also went back to sleeping through the night with no problems. We realized its the crunchy crib mattress, he sleeps fine in our bed, on the futon, everywhere but his bed. A new twin bed is in the cards for Christmas.

    Answer by auroura at 9:19 PM on Oct. 23, 2009

  • Why not let her go back to the crib? We bought my 3 year old a toddler bed when she was 2 and a half and she recently wanted to go back to the crib and we let her. She's still sleeping in it for bedtime and naps. If you're daughter isn't ready for a big girl bed why force it?

    We have a 18 month old son, so we have two cribs right now. We have a third baby due this December. We bought a portable crib (because babies don't out grow them as fast as a bassinet) for the new baby and will have her sleeping in it in our room until our oldest is ready to pass her crib down to her little sister.

    If she's climbing out of the crib, you can always use a crib tent.

    Answer by ThrivingMom at 9:40 PM on Oct. 23, 2009

  • It sounds like she'd rather be social and play then get the sleep she needs - that's pretty normal.

    If she doesn't nap, just enforce a 1 hour "quiet time" where she has to be in can give her some books and tell her she doesn't need to sleep, but she does need to stay in her bed and be quiet. She may scream the whole hour at first, but she'll eventually relax and hang out, and if she is tired, quiet time will turn into a nap.

    Also, if she's not napping, she's probably getting over-tired and wired, and needs earlier bed time.

    For the getting out of bed, just silently pick her up and put her back it a hundred times if you need to, and for days in a row...she will get it.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:14 PM on Oct. 23, 2009

  • It depends on your schedule. When my kids were younger (1,2, and 4) I put up a baby gate and let them play until they went to sleep. Never had any sleep problems. As long as they stayed in their room, everything was fine. All my kids learned how to climb out of their crib by 15 months old, so I couldn't just leave them in their crib like someone else suggested. We worked nights, so it was ok and common for the kids to be up until midnight and sleep in until 10 am. Now they are older and have school, so that method doesn't work, but it got us through the times where they just wanted to play. Since there was no "battle of bedtime", there was no battle when they got older either.

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:31 PM on Oct. 23, 2009

  • thank you for all of your answers. i would love for her just to take a lil nap, because she is soo overtired and her 1 year old sister could use alil quiet time so she can nap also. as far as an earlier bed time, we have tried everything from really early to alot later. i am not going to put her back in her crib, because she broke the one ahe had and it was just as much of a battle to keep her in that as it is the bed. we even tried the pack n play on a couple nights, thinking that was what she needed. didnt work, she just climbed out. again thank you and i will keep on with the putting her back and not saying a word. my MIL keeps telling me it is a phase, lol, lets just pray it is.

    Answer by lilredsfrm67 at 12:25 PM on Oct. 24, 2009

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