my son is six and get angery about every thang i talk to him and tell him if somethink is on his mind then he can always tell me but he dont like to talk about it i worried he is gonig to keep everythang in and at once i need help.Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 11:00 PM on Oct. 23, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
Answer by Anonymous at 11:17 PM on Oct. 23, 2009
Answer by tyfry7496 at 12:01 AM on Oct. 24, 2009
Angry in what way? You are concerned so I am going to assume this is not "typical" anger. The thing about anger is this is not our FIRST emotion. Anger is secondary. Other emotions lead to anger. We are embarrassed so we get angry. We are sad so we get mad we are sad. We are hurt, shamed, frustrated.....we show anger. But kids (really adults too) don't understand their primary emotion. We skip over it and focus on behavior. Good for you that you realize anger is not the issue. The issue is what is behind the anger. Sometimes we can do this at home and sometimes we have to do this with a professional. At home: teach about feelings and it being okay to have lots of feelings. Some feel good and some make us feel not so good. Explain where anger comes from - the other feelings that lead to anger. Give examples. Go to your library and check out age appropriate books on anger for you to read to him at bed. Make it
Answer by frogdawg at 9:27 PM on Oct. 24, 2009
relaxing. Low key. Talk about your feelings. Don't burden a child with adult issues but role model how to handle feelings that feel icky. When they occur say things like, "I'm so mad right now because someone hurt my feelings. I need to just go in my room and scream into my pillow." Or other examples. I tell my child I'm frustrated so I need an adult time out or I need my personal space. There are a ton of parenting books with chapters that deal specifically with this one issue. If something doesn't strike you as being on target or not helping it is okay to get short term professional help. I promise therapists don't bite.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:30 PM on Oct. 24, 2009