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how do i convince my hubby it is time to have a baby?

my husband and i have been married for 3 years and i think we should start trying to have a baby...he is not so keen on the idea. He has many excuses, his biggest reason is because he is a carpenter he could be laid off at anytime. i have tried to explain to him that is going to be a concern for the rest of our lives, and that should not stop us, but he just wont listen. can any one help

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epiteo

Asked by epiteo at 10:19 AM on Oct. 26, 2009 in Trying to Conceive

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  • Well he has a right to be concerned about that, especially now. Having a child is a joint decision, best of luck to you
    Zakysmommy

    Answer by Zakysmommy at 10:24 AM on Oct. 26, 2009

  • First since he is so worried about being laid off then start saving money, about $5,000 then when you do get pregnant he cant say he's worried about money bc it will be there. you can worry about money the rest of your life, or just take the chance and be happy with your choice. good luck When i got pregnant my hubby only had been at his job 4 months, i was so worried when i was pregnant that he would lose his job, our daughter is now 13 months old and h has been working there 2 years. he works at a junk yard, taking parts off used cars.
    bluerose26

    Answer by bluerose26 at 10:40 AM on Oct. 26, 2009

  • i dont think you can convince him. you can simplyy state that you're interested and just hope he'll come around one day.

    also...that is a legit concern especially if you're not working as well
    DomoniqueWS

    Answer by DomoniqueWS at 10:41 AM on Oct. 26, 2009

  • Did the two of you discuss this before you decided to get married?
    rkoloms

    Answer by rkoloms at 10:55 AM on Oct. 26, 2009

  • Ask him what all his concerns are and start working on ways to alleviate those worries. Ask him what conditions need to be met before you conceive, and if any seem unreasonable you may need to negotiate a compromise. Money is a legitimate concern, so work out a contingecy plan for if he loses his job and start saving money now. Addressing some of your DH's fears may make him more willing to start a family. I'm guessing that you did discuss this before you were married, but the thought of having kids does scare a lot of men. You may need to show him that you can step up and stick to a plan for saving, etc. and that the two of you can get through this together.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:26 AM on Oct. 26, 2009

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