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i just had to go pick up my lil cuzin who was crying so bad that she was gettin sick shes in preK she is mixed half black half white she wanted to play with this lil boy who was white and he told her he couldnt paly with her cause his mom and dad said he wasnt alowed to play with black kids i had asked her if her teacher had gottin on to him for that and she said idk so i went to the main office and talk to the teacher and she said she cant do anything cause thats how he is raised but my question is why are parents like this and two why cant teachers do something about it like to the kids and tell them they are no different i thought when they go to preK they are sapposed to learn to share and be friends with all or is this what they are learning today

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Asked by brittanymomma at 2:16 PM on Oct. 27, 2009 in Preschoolers (3-4)

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  • The teacher is right. They cannot change how a child was raised. are the parents wrong, not in their thinking...Some people can't get past color and we have to learn to adapt...use this as a learning experience for her...teach her how to deal with it as it will not be the last time she will come across it...Give her lots of hugs as not all people are like that

    Answer by Jademom07 at 2:21 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • We can't change what other parents teach their children, but we CAN teach our own children good values, kindness, caring, manners and use these types of incidents as teaching tools. There are some good children books to read together and follow up with a conversation about these issues (click on values, character building, manners etc.)

    We can't blame the teacher for what the parents teach their kids, but  In addition to teaching reading and writing, the teacher can teach about kindness and caring too. 


    Answer by momjs at 3:08 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • i think think you should tell the teacher you want a note sent home to the parent of the other child for his actions. Ask her if she will do it. If she can't, tell her you will right a note saying you don't appreciate their son singling your niece out. Even if they don't allow him to play with black kids at home he needs to know to he should respect everyone at school.

    Answer by shay1130 at 4:30 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • I really don't think the note think will help any, the other parent think what they want and because someone of the race the apparently dislikes brings it to their attention, I highly doubt anything will change. I would simply take it for what it is, and use it as a learning experience. Talk to your niece and ask her how it made her feel when that boy said those things to her and tell her why it is so important to treat everyone with respect and so on.

    Answer by sophiaval at 5:01 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • We cant change what the parents taught their kid but what we need to teach our own kids is that skin color is just that a color people maybe different colors and have different personalities but inside we are all the same in my opinon is that black or white a heart is a heart it just depends on how you use it for love or hate see your cousin will learn to like people for who they are not what they look like but that boy is gonna grow up hating black people because his parents say so he'll have no real reason for the hate he knows so well

    Answer by Redneckmomma19 at 5:39 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • some ppl have had bad experiences with other races. therefore blaming the entire race for these occurrences. rather they be black, white, hispanic, asian, indian...etc...
    when this happens they tend to raise their children to believe the same without giving them the chance to find out for themselves. i believe that the racial war between black and white is far from over, unfortunately. all we can do is instill in all of our children that ppl are equals. and hope that they make the right decisions based on our teachings. the hatred between these two races has been passed on from generation to generation and will only be bread out over a period of time. i hope your cousin doesn't let this misinformed little boy, who has innocently reacted without knowledge, leave a sour taste in her mouth.

    Answer by Anonymous at 6:02 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • A teacher should address it and can. It was in the school I worked at. A child's teacher addressed it to the entire class about acceptance and it was not okay for anyone to be bullied or picked on based on race, gender, or religion. If the teacher was white I would have particular issues. As a mother of a black child, oh I can tell you my child's teacher can and will address racism when it happens. Nothing less is acceptable. True a teacher cannot over see what goes on at home and what values are taught at home. It is part of our job as adults to be role models and show a different way of thinking. So if this parent did crack is she going to be like oh well she can't do anything about it is just how they are? No. But because it is about race she feels she has the right to not address it. She may not want to open that can of worms but for your child's safety she needs to. The message to your child: it is okay to

    Answer by frogdawg at 6:17 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • be picked on if you are black. It is okay for people to not stand up for your rights because you are black. Hell no. Fuck no.

    Answer by frogdawg at 6:18 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

  • It is sad that this has happened, however the teacher is right. She can not interfere with how the boy is raised. She can't tell him to play with someone his parents have told him not to. It is their personal beliefs, and they may be pushing them onto their son but that is how they want to raise him. It would be like forcing a Jewish child to participate in the Christmas pageant. I know those are far different examples, but both are the Personal beliefs of the families.  Talk to your niece.  Now is a good time to teach her that not all people will be nice.  There are so many different examples to use if you don't want to use race.  Being picked last for a soccer game, or being picked on for having different clothing.  It can be a way to teach her about how to deal with these kinds of things. 


    Answer by MomOfJandM at 6:34 PM on Oct. 27, 2009

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