At times it's a little rocky, but I wouldn't characterize the whole relationship as being difficult. I knew what to expect, because my father died and my mom remarried when I was 10 and my brother was 8. And my dh is very understanding of the fact that as a boy he looks up and idolizes his dad. I don't "blame" either one of them and it is getting better. At almost 10 he's coming to the realization that his dad isn't doing a lot of the things he should, and that Steve (my dh) is stepping up to take over those responsibilities, physically, financially and emotionally. It takes time. I don't have any magic words of advice other than that I definitely can sympathize with you and wish you luck in finding strategies that work.
at 2:54 PM on Oct. 27, 2009