My ex-DH is becoming a total Disneyland Dad. EOWE, he has the kids (ages 5 & 7) & each visit is a non-stop whirlwind of activity. They eat out every meal (and he is a good cook), go to movies, go to Chuck E Cheese or similar, or to the beach or into the city & stay in hotels. He buys them everything they want--hundreds of dollars every weekend on toys & games. For Christmas, he wants to buy them laptops--he even sent me a text asking if I had a wireless router so the kids could connect to the internet at my house! I said absolutely not on that one. How do you keep up with a Disneyland Dad (or Mom for that matter)? How do I explain it to my skids whose Mom doesn't see them at all? How do we handle the constant barage of gifts? Do I say they can't bring them home? Would you like your 5 year old have a laptop?? Help!!Answer Question
Answer by Mrs.Oriaku at 8:24 PM on Oct. 27, 2009
Answer by SuperMomof3kids at 8:28 PM on Oct. 27, 2009
Answer by my2.5boys at 8:30 PM on Oct. 27, 2009
Answer by Cherish050307 at 8:32 PM on Oct. 27, 2009
You don't keep up. But you don't get in the way of their time with dad either. It isn't a competition. Although he may be acting as it is. In the end, when they are older, they will know who set limits, who was there to ease the pain through the cuts, bruises, death of pets, made them brush their teeth, took them to the doctor.....who it was who parented them. Dad may be trying to be their friend or their favorite but you are being the parent and grown up. I wouldn't say no if he wants to provide or spend money on his children. I would make sure he pays for the things that need to be paid (child support, food, clothes, braces, medical). And I would request a set amount to go into the college fund for each child. Let him know you love he provides and thinks of the kids AND you want him to continue to do so by making sure they have an education fund. I'm for not arguing and for you to continue to be the adult.
Answer by frogdawg at 8:51 PM on Oct. 27, 2009
Answer by MrsLeftlane at 9:20 PM on Oct. 27, 2009
Answer by rkoloms at 10:41 AM on Oct. 28, 2009
IDK what to say about the ex-DH, but my 4 year old has a laptop. He's had it since he was 3. It's good to let kids get a jump on technology. My 9 year old has a desktop. They've both been online since they were 2, supervised, of course.
Answer by Pnukey at 12:50 PM on Oct. 28, 2009
Answer by laird6372 at 6:03 AM on Nov. 12, 2009