Every time you need to speak to your son, go TO him, kneel down to his level so you are not looking down on him, rather looking at him. Tell him to look you in the eye and as long as he is looking you in the eye you tell him what you need. You don't have to yell or raise your voice. Any time he breaks eye contact with you, stop talking and tell him to look you in the eye again. Speak what you need him to know only as long as eye contact is being kept. If he is having a hard time keeping his attention on you, put your hands on either his chin, shoulders, or either side of his face. Just to keep him from pulling away. Once you have said what you need, he needs to respond with a "Yes Mom". This eliminates him using any excuse that he didn't hear you or you feeling like you have to talk louder and louder till you are yelling to get his attention. You will find yourself not getting as frusterated and less stressed.
at 12:28 AM on Jun. 27, 2008