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A Christmas wish for my lil one

I am a struggling mom... I am struggling for a job and daycare and I am afraid my son won't even have diapers for Christmas! The father is very selfish and just got done having his baby! All 3 of his kids aren't even a year apart. He doesn't talk to us cause of his new babys mother! So I am on my own... I can't afford all the drama on top of getting a new job and daycare! I just want my sons first holiday to be special! Sorry I just need to express myself... I come to the library a lot to spend time with him and come on cafemom... If you can give me your happy, funny, or sad Christmas story I will appreciate it.

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Asked by Anonymous at 10:11 AM on Oct. 28, 2009 in Holidays

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  • I think there is a group on here to help families with Christmas. I'm sorry I do not know the name. Please do a search. SS mama.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:15 AM on Oct. 28, 2009

  • Ok so one year when i first had my son. He was about 5 months and i was 18. i was so broke. I had no furniture NOTHING. My freind came to my apt to wrap her kids presents. I used xmas wrapping paper to cut out a shape of a tree and tape it on the wall. I bought some dollor lights and taped them to it and used one of his toys shaped as a star and taped it to the top. He was a baby and HE LOVED that tree!!!. I didnt have money to buy him anything. i bought him a elmo that was $10. he was a baby he didnt know any better. I fed him turkey baby food and we spent xmas together alone. I felt like crap but NOW he doesnt rem that. I just made it up next year. Until your child is 3 or older you dont have to really worry about xmas. It's more of buying things to satisfy your guilt. Don't worry it will get better. I did it on my own for 2 years before i met my hubby. I didnt have a car. I didnt have anything. I loved my son.

    Answer by Mrs.Oriaku at 10:16 AM on Oct. 28, 2009

  • christmas isnt just about the presents! dont worry yourself! try starting some holiday traditions. crafts and cooking are great and cheap. for holidays i make art with my kids hand and foot prints. we do the same ones every year so we can see how much they have grown. for christmas we make a christmas tree out of hand prints. my mom made christmas cookies with us every year... it is still one of my favorite parts of christmas. i dont have any of the presents i got as a child... they all end up in the trash eventually. the memories are forever.


    Answer by bettylou420 at 10:46 AM on Oct. 28, 2009

  • That is sad I will see what I can do. GIve your address(no I am not a stalker) and I will take the money my son was gonna use for a christmas box for another kid and send you some diapers.
    IDK whne they will ge tthere id they get to you before dec. you will be lucky. I have 5 kids an dI am supper busy. lol.

    Answer by Ibelongtojesus at 11:38 AM on Oct. 28, 2009

  • You could try to make a wish on there is alot of wishes on there and you could ask for christmas cards for him and people sent my kids stickers and we put on a fake tree. And you should try your local church too. Hope everything is best for you. I also have 5 kids and I know we dont have much but I try to at least get them one thing each and we do many crafts and stuff. So keep your head up and hope everything goes well.

    Answer by momof5kidz at 1:17 PM on Oct. 28, 2009

  • For Christmas make him his very first Christmas stocking stuff with his name on it. Or find one at a Goodwill thrift store for a buck and put his name on it.  Just fill it with little things.  Hopefully his father will have a heart and put a card stuffer with some money in it.


    Answer by Anonymous at 1:35 PM on Oct. 28, 2009

  • I know how it is to struggle. I was a single mom for a while, too. Luckily, while they are young, you can get by without having to spend a whole lot. Get a few stuffed toys from the Dollar Tree or Dollar General, and a few Christmas candies. The dollar tree also has cute Christmas decorations. My dd liked to play with the wrapping paper the most her 1st Christmas- LOL.

    Now is the perfect time to start a family tradition- showing your child the true meaning of Christmas- family (even just the 2 of you are a family), faith, friends.

    God Bless

    Answer by ave.maria. at 2:16 PM on Oct. 28, 2009

  • I assume he is a baby and honestly for the first few years as far as x-mas they don't need alot. SO don't feel bad you are doing the best you can and are struggling and I am so sorry! Have you searched for services to help you? Does your state offer day care assistance? Its hard to be a single mom.....

    Answer by hill2 at 1:12 AM on Oct. 29, 2009

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