I am between a rock and a hard spot. My son's girlfriend, 15, goes to Mass with us every week. She takes teenage religious ed classes with my son as well. She just asked about becoming Catholic. I told her she has to have her mom sign her up at the Church.
My problem: I was talking last Sunday to my entire family. I have a baptism dress over a hundred years old. It has been passed down generation to generation and I would love to see my grandkids wear the dress. My son said he would like that as well. I can't help but wonder if she wants to be convert to be accepted. This is not how I feel at all and they are not even thinking marriage. Should I tell her to wait until next year to convert? How can I do this without making it sound as if I am waiting for them to break up? I don't care if she becomes Catholic, but I don't want her to do it because of him or me.
Asked by Anonymous at 2:47 PM on Oct. 30, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs
(cont) the only reason the baptism dress was brought up in conversation is because one daughter is making her first communion and we started talking about the communion dressed that was handed down along with the veil. These conversations are not meant to put wheels of marriage in these two young kids.
Answer by Anonymous at 2:48 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 2:52 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
Answer by gdiamante at 2:54 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
Answer by moniquinha at 2:59 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
Answer by nysa00 at 2:59 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
She will be required to take the classes. The priest is enrolling candidates now. I guess it will take a bit of a time to complete the classes. She may not do it if she wasn't sure.
As for the dress, it fits a 2nd grader so she wouldn't be able to fit it. I agree it is not her dress and the only way one of her children would ever wear it is if 20 years from now they have a girl.
I think I will take the advice of the poster and let her talk to the priest. In the end her mom has to agree. I just don't like it. In some weird way in my mind it makes a commitment to my son and they are too young. That brings a new question. Should I allow my son to be her sponsor if she ask?
Answer by Anonymous at 3:01 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
Reading the last two responses, I have to say I am surprised. I don't know you two to be Catholic. Getting an outside opinion is just as helpful as getting an inside opinion. I am surprised that many of you think she is old enough to make this choice. Maybe I am just to protective.
I brought up the dress because I wonder if this is what get her thinking to convert. Like, she has to convert to be married, have kids, the kids baptised ect... Neither the baptism dress or the communion dress would fit her.
Answer by Anonymous at 3:07 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
Answer by erdavh at 3:27 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
Answer by nysa00 at 3:33 PM on Oct. 30, 2009
I don't think her converting is her making a commitment to you son, many people have converted to religions of previous boyfriends/girlfriends, broke up and are still very happy they made their choice in religion. Maybe she just really likes the Catholic faith? After talking to a priest, convincing her mother and taking at least a year long class, she will know if she really wants to be Catholic, whether she and your son are still together or not.
Answer by .Silvermist. at 8:37 AM on Oct. 31, 2009