My daughters dad has never seen her, never showed interest and has made a threat that he would take my daughter to his homeland....I fear and hate his actions and I find it hard to tell my 4 yr old why she doesnt have a dad like everyone else in her class....she is beginning to notice her family is a bit different to others and she is asking things like.....is my dad at work? and is my dad dead? she asked me once if her dad hurt me and is that why he is not with us........how do I answer? how do I justify....it seems like the usual answer (it didnt work out with dad and I)
doesnt wash with her....I dont ever want to tell her what he was or is...no matter how old she becomes...she doesnt need to know the cruel things he said and did....but will she think I'm the baddie...who deprived her of a father? I'm really lost
Answer by tiffany0317 at 8:07 AM on Oct. 31, 2009
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Answer by lovelost1989 at 9:35 AM on Oct. 31, 2009
I would keep it simple and at this point tell her that her Dad lives very far away and can't keep in touch. Leave it at that. At some point you are going to have to tell her at least the basics of what happened. But only answer the questions she asks and don't elaborate, unless she ask. Kids will ask what they want to know.
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