I am (sort of) a single mother of a 3 month old. I stayed home with her for 2 months and then went back to work. My brother watched her for awhile and I was okay with that since it was just a few hours. When I let someone else watch her, she got treated horribly, came back filthy and in very wet diapers that gave her horrible diaper rash. I'm not a paranoid mom but now I'm afraid to even let anyone take care of her other than me (i stopped working for other reasons).
This is affecting even my new boyfriend. He made a comment the other day that I don't let him help with the baby. I usually give her to my mom (I currently moved back home) instead of letting him help, even though I know he's fully wiling and capable.
How do I fix this? I don't want it to ruin my relationship, and I want to be able to let Lili go to a babysitter without me worrying that what happened in the past will happen again.
Answer by Knightquester at 2:38 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by presleyfan1 at 8:41 AM on Nov. 1, 2009
I agree with everything that was said by presleyfan1. Is there a Women's Center near where you live? They might be able to offer resources where you can meet ohter moms and find trustworthy caretakers for your baby. Or, is there a birth/wellness center where you can find about about other groups for new moms and their babies? It's overwhelming and difficult to adjust to being a new mom, but it gets better - especially when you are able to meet up w/other moms going through some of the same issues that you are. It's a shame that you had a negative experience with your baby's caretaker, but, that doesn't mean you can't find someone you can trust. I hope you will give your boyfriend a chance (if, of course, you really trust him - your gut will know). Hang in there!
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