This is more about where adoptive moms are coming from, I think - I've been reading and just wondering what made us (as adoptive moms) choose the type of adoptions we did with our children?
I, personally, don't think I'd seek out a domestic infant adoption and have explained my reasons before (tho I can again if it helps) but I just was thinking this morning - what made you choose the route you did?
BMoms - chime in with why you made the choices you did, if you'd like - I like to see why or what makes people come to the choices that they do - it's just my personality... :)
Please no debating why people make the choices they do - I'm just asking to see the basis of our decisions - and if everyone wants to answer anon - I'm cool with that - really I just would like to see the answers with out debate or being critical of the choices of others :) - I'm just curious :)
Warm hugs :)
Answer by onethentwins at 10:58 AM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 3:29 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by ceejay1 at 4:33 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
I'm BSE so closed.I was in college and became pregnant by my 2 yr long boyfriend,He did not want him .When all parents were told it was decided to place me in a agency maternity home without money,checkbook,car anything.I was there less than 72 hours after they were told.I was told should I escape I would have no home to go to and would be tracked and the baby taken from me for being homeless.My family was 100% behind this.I would have done anything to keep him.Anything.It now seems he does not know he is adopted,he is 32.There was no choice made by me.
Answer by drfink at 5:32 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 6:29 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by mcginnisc at 7:50 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by Iamgr8teful at 10:04 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by rainfalls at 10:54 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
I wanted an open adoption but got an semi open and honestly I am waiting for it to close. Not saying it will for sure, but Im sure it will sooner or later and I am just trying to be ready for it. There was a huge miscommunication on how much contact that I wanted and what they really wanted. I dont think that they said what I wanted to hear to gain a baby. But I just think that in the raw emotion of things, nothing was ever said..."I want this, I dont want that..." type of thing. I was never educated about anything really. Told the difference then told I was "brave, strong and the alike" Whatever. I love the people who adopted my daughter, I wish our relationship was stronger, more open. That is in their court. Im waiting with open arms. I have come to learn that I chose a forever thing for a not so forever situation. I could have parented if I would have applied myself.
Answer by TLW514 at 11:16 PM on Nov. 1, 2009
Answer by doodlebopfan at 3:59 AM on Nov. 2, 2009