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how can i find a good man

im always finding the wrong guy

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Asked by shesaqt at 2:32 AM on Nov. 3, 2009 in Relationships

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  • First , look after yourself. Do things that make you happy and confident, things you have always wanted to do (study, travel etc). Once you start becoming confident and respecting yourself you will ultimately attract someone who will respect and support you. Dont look for someone to save you or look after you, these guys take advantage of such dependency.
    Immerse yourself in creative and positive activities and you will be surprised what may happen.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:43 AM on Nov. 3, 2009

  • you're subconciously seeking out 'the wrong guy'. perhaps you've suffered some past trauma you need counselling for. Heal yourself first. Then worry about connecting to a man.

    Answer by 6under1roof at 2:53 AM on Nov. 3, 2009

  • The best place to meet a good man is at church. There you will meet those who are serious about life and about making committments. Many churches even have what is called single ministries and they schedule social activities for their members. If I were single, the church would be the only place I would look for a potential mate.

    Answer by NannyB. at 6:06 AM on Nov. 3, 2009

  • First, you need to get to know yourself, be happy with yourself, be confident. Get some hobbies, have a life that fulfills you w/o a man, so that you aren't looking for a man to complete it. Make sure you don't come across as desperate (not saying you do), b/c that always attracts the wrong quality of man.

    Know what you want from a man, and from a relationship, and then take that list and figure out the absolute dealbreakers (meaning since you're on here, you must have kids, so a dealbreaker would be he must love kids, where as not drinking is one you want but isn't necessarily a huge deal) and then any man that doesn't meet the standards of those absolute dealbreakers, just keep going. If you catch yourself thinking "Maybe I can change that" or "Maybe he'll change", keep going.

    Answer by tropicalmama at 6:43 AM on Nov. 3, 2009

  • No offense, but what kind of guy do you think you are looking for? And is that really what you want? Ask yourself honestly, Is that type of man going to be interested in a woman like you? Everyone wants a great SO, but sometimes they are not willing to be as great. You, have to be as great or better than the person you are looking for, for that type of person to even notice you.
    Everyone says, find a good man at church! But I go to church and know the men that attend regularly, and know enough about them that they won't just settle for any woman either. They are looking for a significant other of substance.Like themselves. So, imo, take a good look at yourself and realize who you are before you look for a man either oflow caliber or high caliber in comparison to yourself.

    Answer by jewjewbee at 8:36 AM on Nov. 3, 2009

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