It's going to take a lot of work and patience. Do you have an established bedtime routine? Dinner, bath, cleaning up room, picking out a book, then bed? If you have a routine that helps. Read her a bedtime story in her bed. Crawl in with her, cuddle her up and read the story. After that, kneel next to it with the lights out, massage her face, talk smoothly about sleeping and when she's about half asleep, gently give her a kiss and tell you you'll see her in the morning. Back out slowly, don't turn your back on her, and stand outside her door. If she stays there and cries, that's good, if she gets up, gently take her hand, lead her back in and in as few words as possible tell her its bedtime and she needs to go to sleep. If she's the type to get up it's a long process, if she just cries herself to sleep you'll be fine. You might want to try too having her pick out a pillow from mommy's bed. The scent may help.
at 10:07 AM on Nov. 3, 2009