It is important to establish yourself not just as a disciplinarian. You need to be sure you bond with him on as a deep a level as he will let you. That way, you aren't coming across as the evil stepmom. It is important to try and get his mother on your side, too, if at all possible. There is a belief with many children that a stepparent means the disappearance of the biological parent that is being "replaced". Your husband needs to help with this process by recongizing you as an authority figure, but also proving to his son that regardless of all else, he comes first. A child will often feel that dad chose some new woman over him. My sister is my half sister and had problems battling between her biological dad and our dad. Plus she has two stepchildren of her own, and I have one. This is a topic of great discussion within our family!
at 12:04 PM on Jun. 19, 2008