Tonight it came out in the course of things that my husband has wanted to try something we haven't done before (a little light spanking, sorry for the TMI lol) for about a year. He never told me, and I never suspected. I've told him over and over again that I want him to confide in me and that I want to know everything about him, and that I want to share in his fantasies. Only now that I'm trying to be more aggresive and take-charge in the bedroom (or living room, as the co-sleeping case may be lol) does he feel like he can let me know this.
How can I help him trust me? He's always been shy like this, and I just want so badly for us to fully trust each other.
Asked by Anonymous at 1:08 AM on Nov. 5, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by eema.gray at 1:53 AM on Nov. 5, 2009
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Answer by NannyB. at 7:08 AM on Nov. 5, 2009
I don't think it's that he does not trust you, i think that for some, it's very embarrassing to admit things like that. It has nothing to do with trust. I secretly want my SO to talk dirty to me, & i have not told him. I'm scared he might not want to do it but feel pressured to because that's what i like. I don't want him feeling uncomfortable about it. I trust him %100 though. It's not so easy for everyone to be open about their sexual desires. Be happy that he told you, & ask him what else he wants to do. Or how his sexual fantasy would play out. The ball is already rolling, so go with the flow.
Answer by samurai_chica at 8:36 AM on Nov. 5, 2009
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