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Should I feel guilty?

I am a happily married woman who adores my husband more than anything in the world. Recently I found out that an ex boyfriend of mine was in jail on charges that were not his. His family turned their backs on him and left him sitting there with no support. Not even a letter. So I went to visit him and wrote to him a couple of times. I found him a lawyer and did everything I could do to help him get out. After 2 months his charges were dropped and he was released. I never saw him after he was released and the only contact I have had since he was released was a thank you letter. My husband does not know I helped him. Should I feel guilty for helping him out???

Asked at 3:59 PM on Nov. 5, 2009 by:

rykysangel

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Answered at 4:03 PM on Nov. 5, 2009 by: Anonymous

Not at all. You did a good thing for a friend and what he doesn't know will not hurt anyone.
Answered at 4:07 PM on Nov. 5, 2009 by: Anonymous

You shouldnt feel guilty for helping...but you should feel guilty for not telling your DH.
Answered at 4:30 PM on Nov. 5, 2009 by:
- lowencope
Well, of course it was a good thing to help him out, but you should have been honest with your husband. I would just let it go at this point and leave well enough alone.
Answered at 4:52 PM on Nov. 5, 2009 by:
- melody77
not for helping he guy but for keeping it a secret from your husband in the first place. at this point don't tell him. what would be the point. he would most likely get upset with you and why if you don't or haven't had contact with this man. consider it a blessing from god for him to have gotten you as that angel to help him.
Answered at 6:29 PM on Nov. 5, 2009 by:
- shay1130
yes...i would feel guilty