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Did my husband cheat on me?

He told me @ 3pm he was going 2 have a few beers w/ some fellow classmates (girls & guys) & wld b home by dinner. I called & texted him sev. times when it got late & he wasn't home. He never answered his phone or called me back. He finally came home @ 9pm looking v. drunk & disheveled. He wasn't wearing his glasses; said he had lost them. Didn't give me much explanation for his behavior other than

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Asked by Anonymous at 9:19 PM on Nov. 7, 2009 in Relationships

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  • Um, yeah.

    Answer by YuppyMom at 9:20 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • um... yeah. thats fucked up. are you hurt by this? well wait- to ME its cheating. it depends on how you feel about it. if you feel like its cheating, then it is.

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:21 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • He told you. Which means that he probably doesn't have any plans to pursue this girl further. I don't know. I know you're hurt...but I don't think that he did it maliciously right?

    Answer by SterlingLegend at 9:27 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • i think kissing is cheating.. my husband said the same thing once. that he kissed and didnt do more.. turned out they had sex 4 times in one night. ask most guys. if they say it was just a kiss it is most likely more. ...

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:40 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • He says he was so drunk that he didn't know what was going on at first. (Yes, he finally admits he has an alcohol problem.) He said he was "tempted" b/c he is a man and here is this girl throwing herself @ him. I keep going back to the glasses--did they get knocked off his face?? If so, wtf kind of movement were they doing?? After asking him this over & over he finally said, "they were taken off me". So what I say to that is, "so you knew what she was about to do--she didn't just come in & face-rape you!!--there4 u had time to stop her, walk away, etc." Yes, I am hurt by this, but I don't know if it's worth throwing away our 8 yrs of marriage over. Thanks for your answers; I really need to talk 2 someone about this, but he doesn't want us to tell anyone since it would compromise his integrity....

    Answer by Anonymous at 9:48 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • Him cheating compromised his integrity!!!... thats just messed up. 8 years is a long time but I do think you both should talk to someone... Good Luck!!

    Answer by Shyma at 9:51 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • are you kiddin me? divorce his nasty ass. find your soul mate who would never cheat on you.

    Answer by PURPULbutterfly at 9:59 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • It's just not that easy. We have 2 kids. We sold our house a yr ago & moved in w/ his parents so he could go back to school 4 his RN degree (he's 32, I'm 31). I'm working FT to support us. I just don't know how to feel or what 2 do. I don't have any experience w/ this. I've never been cheated on b4. His schooling, his future profession (nursing), means that he'll be around mostly females. This has never bothered me b4 b/c I'm not the jealous type; but I feel like this changes everything. Please, help, help, help.

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:17 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • "He said he was "tempted" b/c he is a man . "

    Ah. The Y Chromosome Defect defense. I don't care if she was throwing herself at him. He knows the word, "No."

    He needs help for his drinking. Alcoholics Anonymous will be a big help for him. Al-Anon for you to help him.

    Answer by gdiamante at 10:41 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

  • He's gone to AA before. Also to another group called Celebrating Recovery, which is for all kinds of addicts, not just alcoholics. But he stopped going around month 3 or so. Should I give him an ultimatum--that he needs to complete a program?

    Answer by Anonymous at 10:55 PM on Nov. 7, 2009

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