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how do i talk to him about this?

my husband has been a restaurant manager at his current job for the past three years. hes a hard worker, always works 60 or more hours a week, goes in on his days off if he is needed to help. but yesterday he got demoted form being the kitchen manager and being on salary to just being paid hourly. he and the general manager above him both got demoted. i'm not sure why, or what the whole story is about it.but i want to talk to him about it. i can tell he is really mad and upset about it, and i'm not sure how to bring it up with him. he called yesterday saying he wasn't sure what time he would be home cause he felt like going to get drunk. and he never drinks. and eh got home at 1;30 am. and had to get up at 4am to go to work again at 6am. has anyone else had an experience like this with your so or dh getting demoted at work? how do i get him to talk to me about it?

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Asked by Anonymous at 4:52 PM on Nov. 8, 2009 in Relationships

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  • He will talk to you when he is ready. but if he has not said anything about it in a week or two you should say something about it. Because it is his job, yes. But it is your life too. You want to know what is going on in your life.

    Answer by louise2 at 4:57 PM on Nov. 8, 2009

  • Just wait until he brings it up. In the meantime, be especially kind and supportive to him. He needs that more than he needs to talk about the situation right now. I would not be at all surprised if it did not have to do with the current economic conditions. A lot of companies are asking their employees to take cuts in pay just so they can keep their businesses afloat. If you have the chance when he does bring it up, just tell him you are sure it is nothing personal. That will go a long way toward soothing his wounded ego. You can also look for ways to stretch his current pay and that too will help relieve some of his pressures.

    Answer by NannyB. at 5:33 PM on Nov. 8, 2009

  • there is a lot of drama in the biz...maybe they got caught up in it...ask him

    Answer by shay1130 at 6:06 PM on Nov. 8, 2009

  • I'm guessing he was demoted because of money, not character. Everyone,, even schools are tightening the belts up to be able to stay afloat right now. Our school is actually having parents coming in working in the cafeteria on clean up to save some money. The teachers, office staff and even principal are all rotating out shifts for it. But they're doing what they have to do to keep the doors open, to keep the staff a job and to just hold their own.
    He's upset right now and likely trying to figure things out himself. He'll talk when he's ready.

    Answer by lisa_ann_p at 6:40 PM on Nov. 8, 2009

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