Hi. I'm a soon to be 21 year old college student. I'm not a mom, but maybe some of you moms can help. My mom is driving me insane. For the past 20 years, I did most of what she's asked me without any question. Going to college made me realize that if I continued to do what my mom wants, I'd suffer an empty life. Maybe I'd have an automatic job or lots of money, but right now, as a single, childless young person, money for an empty life is not a good trade-off.
One thing my mom and I often fight about is my hair (we're african). "You will never ever wear your natural hair." "Yes, I will... who said you will dictate what happens to my hair?" Same goes for education. I decided to stop letting them pay for my degree so I can study both what I like and what's "practical" as a back-up, but she wasn't having that either. No matter what it is, my mom expects to be the one in control of my life. Help! Advice! I can't take it!
Asked by Anonymous at 6:25 PM on Nov. 8, 2009 in Relationships
Answer by cassie_m at 6:32 PM on Nov. 8, 2009
You will just have to put your foot down and make it perfectly clear to your mom, you are grown and will do what you want to do with your life. Do you still live at home? Some times us moms forget our kids are grown. It is hard to let go.
Answer by louise2 at 6:33 PM on Nov. 8, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 6:37 PM on Nov. 8, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 7:27 PM on Nov. 8, 2009
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