he died last saturday...Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 9:06 AM on Nov. 10, 2009 in Religion & Beliefs
i'm very sorry *hugs*
I lost my little sister to breast cancer last May and the anger still hasn't gone away. People say it takes time and anger is a step in the grieving process. I try to surround myself with positive memories of her being happy, and will do little things like go on Cancer walks in her honor and write messages to her on balloons and set them into the sky. It helps a little, but there is always that part of me who is so angry that other people have their sisters to talk and laugh with but mine was taken away. It's not fair and it's hard to accept. I just go day by day and hope things will somehow get better. Some people think talking to others about it will help- it didn't help me, but it might work for you.
Answer by IhartU at 9:15 AM on Nov. 10, 2009
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Answer by Anonymous at 10:18 AM on Nov. 10, 2009
I lost my father to cancer two years ago. I found the 7 stages of grief to be enormously helpful. It helped me and my family to recognise each stage as we (or I) went through it. It gave us hope that the wounds were healing and the pain was diminishing.
I think it is very important to release your emotions, holding them in only lengthens your bereavement. I found that the best way to get through grief is to tackle each stage head on. I promise you, that you will live again and you will laugh again. Unfortunately loss is the cost of love, and I do know how you feel.
I am very sorry for your loss.
Answer by beeky at 10:48 AM on Nov. 10, 2009
Answer by NannyB. at 10:56 AM on Nov. 10, 2009
I lost my father, not to cancer, but to a genetic heart disease that we weren't aware he had. He had just turned 45 when he died & I am sometimes angry that we had to loose him so early. It took me a while to get angry & it took a while to not let the anger nag at me often. It will take time for you to stop being angry & really you don't stop, you just are less angry & angry a lot less often. I found it helpful to talk about the anger with someone else who was angry about it. After I had vented from time to time for a few weeks, I started stopping myself when I would get angry. I was usually angry when I thought of the good things & good times because they were gone. I started to acknowledge that it was painful that they wouldn't continue but remembering they also brought me joy. I focused on the joy. 10 years later I am still angry at times, but mostly I am glad I had a loving (though flawed) father.
Answer by nysa00 at 11:55 AM on Nov. 10, 2009
We lost my Dad at 44 to a sudden heart attack - with no prior heart issues. I don't remember being angry, just terribly sad and lonely. I know it sucks and NOTHING anyone says right now will take the sting out of it. Time helps heal the wound a bit, but you will always miss him. But that's how I know he was worth having in my life if only til I was 22... he was worthy of being missed!!
Anger is a natural part of the grieving process. But, if you feel as if it's getting the best of you perhaps you could try talking to someone about it like a therapist, a trusted clergy member or a good friend. Don't hold it in what ever the emotion, it can eat you alive. Sorry that you have to go thru this, I wouldn't wish it on anyone!!
Answer by Morgain at 12:49 PM on Nov. 10, 2009