I am looking for some suggestions for discipling my children. They are 6 yrs old and 9 yrs old, way old enough to know better, and lately the 6 yr old has been really mouthing off to me, lying to me, misbehaving in school, etc. And the 9 yr old has been lying to me, and giving me a major attitude. So I am looking for some help. The methods of discipline I have been using hasnt been helping. Thank you!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 5:24 PM on Nov. 10, 2009 in School-Age Kids (5-8)
I use many different forms of punishment. I take away TV time, put them in the corner, make them go to their rooms, and yes I even spank when called for. Punishments work differently for every child. I would have rather been sent to my room than to get a spanking and my brother would have rather been spanked all day long than to be made to stand in the corner. You just really have to find out what works best for each child. As for the 9 year old attitude I would remind them that everything they have is a privilege and can be taken away. You have to be consistent, that's the key!
Answer by Frogbaby83 at 5:42 PM on Nov. 10, 2009
Answer by forevermom75 at 5:48 PM on Nov. 10, 2009
Answer by Maryellen at 5:54 PM on Nov. 10, 2009
I use Love and Logic. You can find a copy in your local library and almost all book stores carry a copy. I highly suggest it to all parents. As far as day to day discipline I use love, compassion, understanding, and logical consequences. Good transitions also help from one activity to the next and I rely heavily on routine. Not a schedule but definitely a routine. How to give you examples of what might be useful to you? Well, in one post I doubt you will find one ah ha! moment. There are so many good techniques and ways for you to cope and teach. I would say if you are really interested in finding new ways to check out several parenting books, skim them, take what makes sense, try it, and dump what doesn't work. Keep what you find useful. It is always about trial and error...no parent is perfect. It is hard raising kids but kids would say it is hard raising parents. Both are true. Read, try, and keep trying.
Answer by frogdawg at 8:48 PM on Nov. 10, 2009
Answer by Joanne28 at 11:41 PM on Nov. 10, 2009
Answer by char944 at 7:13 AM on Nov. 11, 2009