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Am I reading too much into this?

My parents are the only Grandparents my kids have. They act like they are so involved. They live a whole 10 minutes away, but rarely see my kids. Don't ever go to their games. Although they always talk about wanting too. If one of my kids have a runny nose. They won't come around them either in fear of becoming ill. Let's just say they do get sick, they always blame my kids for making them sick. My Mom only wants to watch them if SHE volenteers but, then will say "I hope they can behave, or I have to get up early" I never expect her to watch them. I look at it as getting to spend extra time with the grandkids. Don't get me wrong they love my kids. I just feel they think they are closer then they are. My dad gets anoid easy when the kids are at his house. Like we are disturbing his TV shows.

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 11:40 AM on Nov. 13, 2009 in Relationships

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  • I'm an older parent with 9 grandkids and I make sure they know I love them but I have a life and I'm not babysitting unless it's an emergency. Their parents keep me up on their life so it's not like I don't care. As we get older our nerves can't take a lot of noise and we are susceptible to illnesses kids carry. I would be right there with your parents. My parents loved my kids but seldom watched them. They turned out ok and didn't think they were being slighted. I think you should accept what your parents offer and be grateful. JMHO
    admckenzie

    Answer by admckenzie at 11:45 AM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • They are grandparents. It is your jobe to go to your kids games not their's. they are not your free daycare either. If they want to keep the grandkids it should be because they want to not just because you want them to.
    louise2

    Answer by louise2 at 11:45 AM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • I am not wanting them to watch my kids. I pay a sitter if I need one. Why shouldn't they try to come to games once in a while. Other kids have grandparents at every game. I am just asking for one a season.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 11:52 AM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • Well, My sil feels this way about her mom but how much actual time are you thinking your parents SHOULD spend? I guess I am lucky that my mom actually LOVES to watch my son and care for him and has no problem if I need for an hour here or there, actually she tells me I need to go do things more since I never want to leave him...lol!! but they raised their kids already - I am at a toss up on this though cause I would feel sad if my mom didn't want to see him or if I felt that way - but I know my MIL says about my SIL that she has 3 kids and its always noisey and people yelling and its stressful to be there too long.. IDK
    maxsmom11807

    Answer by maxsmom11807 at 11:55 AM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • I don't understand why many feel that their kids are doing their parents a favor by seeing the grandchildren? What they are doing is using them for  free babysitting services.  The parents have done their job with you and now it's your time you do yours.  Hire someone and only ask for their help in an emergency. 

    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:04 PM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • Can you not read. I said I PAY a sitter if I need one. Hello I am talking about a relationship with the grandkids. Not a freaking babysitting service. They are 10 minutes away and rarely will come to dinner when I invite them over. Offer to take my kids someplace as a treat after school, but will back out.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:09 PM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • Looks like you guys are already grandparents and I hope to be more involved with mine when I have them. Not be a grumpy old person who thinks their kids are just after free childcare. That's silly.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:11 PM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • I have grandparents that are both ways. My parents are very involved with their grandkids. They wont watch my dd just whenever but they are very close. They dont go to an event (swim meet, or play) because they feel obligated. My mom will request the schedule and atleast stop in for part of alot of things. My mom always wants to make goodie bags for the class when their is a halloween or other holiday party. I know what you mean about being involved. My parents arent at our house everyday, they arent my babysitter all the time they just have a relationship with my dd.
    ria7

    Answer by ria7 at 12:40 PM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • You have the opposite problem that I had when I was together with my ex. My ex didn't want to spend time with my former MIL. She would have babysat ANYTIME and wanted to spend as much time as possible with our daughter. But my ex kept making excuses not to have her over just because my ex was annoyed by her. It was weird and unfortunate.
    kathyartist2007

    Answer by kathyartist2007 at 1:33 PM on Nov. 13, 2009

  • That's sad...some of these answers are sad....no wonder people don't need grandparents anymore. They accuse their own children of using them for babysitting services. I have had my parents watch my son ONE time, he is 3 years old. They never get to see him because we are stationed overseas. They'd probably be thrilled to spend time with him. They watch him grow up on the internet through pictures...
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:04 PM on Nov. 13, 2009

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