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advice please what happens at a child support hearing

i go to court on the 18th. what should i expect i've never been though this i dont know anyone who has. i havent heard from my ex for two weeks he didn't even call on ds's b-day he's been making comments(on myspace) about how he's going to make sure my son lives in a two parent home about how he wishes he was already gone to basic training so he wouldn't have to deal with this (he joined the army) what happens if he doesn't show? do they bring up custody at these things?(if they do can i bring upthe lifestyle that he and the misses are involved in) what if he says hes helped than he has?(the only thing he has ever gotten our son is a 1st easter bunny) is it gonna be reduced to he says she says? what if he claims that he's not the father(he sign a P.A. and he's the only one i've slept with) i just don't know what to do? i could really use some advice


Asked by liadotwtd at 12:57 AM on Nov. 14, 2009 in General Parenting

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  • If the other parent doesnt show up in court the judge can either dismiss, continue, or rule in favor of the parent who is there. It really depends on the situation and how much is involved.
    As far as paternity.. if your ex already signed and now wants to challenge, the court could order a paternity test at his expense. Not something you need to pay for.
    If your ex wants credit for any money spent he needs to show proof. Reciepts that prove he paid X amount for insurance for the child, child care, clothes etc. Gifts are not considered support!
    As far as his lifestyle being brought up, again you would need proof of your allegations. That can turn into a he said she said quickly. Some judges will here it, others wont. You would need to have family or friends with you wiiling to speak against him, sometimes notarized letters will do.
    I would print out his myspace comments and bring them with you.

    Answer by formykids373 at 6:02 AM on Nov. 14, 2009

  • If he doesn't show, the judge should automatically agree with you. Also, seeing he joined the military, the government will MAKE him pay child support, that don't think highly of their soilders not taking care of their children. At my child support hearing, the judge asked a few questions, made his decsion, told my ex what would happen if he didn't pay his support, signed the papers and we were done and gone in about 15 minutes.

    Answer by tyfry7496 at 1:01 AM on Nov. 14, 2009

  • how long will they give him to start paying?

    Answer by liadotwtd at 1:16 AM on Nov. 14, 2009

  • There is a formula that is used to dertermine the amount of support. The judge will ask you questions such as has he helped you with books, clothing, doctors visits, etc. There is also a credit for good parenting and having insurance on the chid for the father.

    However, don't assume because he is joining the military you will automatically get your support, interstate support is the worst for child support offices. Are you being helped by the local child support office or do you have your own private attorney? Either way, there are formulas and guidelines that the courts have to use. Good luck!

    Oh, and normally the following Friday of the week you go to court is when the support order shall be enforced.

    Answer by ronjwake at 1:32 AM on Nov. 14, 2009