I'm stuck and need help!
Three years ago(i know i should have gotten over this by now!) i found out my husband had been seeing a woman he works.He had been lying to me for some time about where he'd been going etc.i confronted him one night and he just came out with it.He said he still loved me but he loved her too and although we stayed together(largely due to my hard work and dedication) he has never said why he did it or shown much remorse for it.I had to actually ask him to apologize.
I feel i have moved on with my life,but the thought is still in my head that he could betray me again.I work a lot and try to fill my time up as much as possible so i don't sit and dwell on things but every time i'm on my own its all i think about.
What do I do?It makes me really sad to think that i haven't been able to forgive him.I love him very much so i should be able to let it go shouldn't i?
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Answer by Gailll at 2:04 PM on Nov. 14, 2009
Yes Daisycat78...I am sorry you have to go through this alone but it is up to you if you do not have kids with him of course it is much easier to move on with out him no matter how much you love him. But it his mind he is probably thinking whew! I am glad that is over with she knows now. So it is only natural to feel this way from the sounds of it you sound like a very strong woman with a good head on her shoulders. If you have kids then see how long you can last like this if not make other arrangements and move on.
I know a lady who's dh cheated on her they have a 10 yr. old together he cheated i don't know how many times but she says she stays with him bc of so many bills they have accumilated she cannot do this alone. Do what is best for you and the kids. GL
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