BM has had very little to do with DSS in the last 2+ years. She has only visited him 3 times. She never pays child support or her share of the costs. She never sends him gifts for any reason. She has moved from Montana, to Illinois, to Arkansas and then to California all within the last year. Now that she lives in California she has a job ...working in the carnival. She went 7 MONTHS without even calling him and has plans to come visit him in JUNE when her current job takes her up to our area. ...that will be 1 year and 9 or so months sense her visit before that.
DH has full legal and physical custody. Pays for everything. And even while he was deployed had weekly, if not daily, phone calls and fairly regular web cams. He is back in Germany now.
What do you think are our chances of joining him?