I will be 24 years old in Dec. Sense I was 16 I have been in a realtionship and ALWAYS putting the man first. My first real relationship lasted 4 years. Two weeks after we broke up I met my husband. We are no married and have a 14 month old son that is the LOVE of my life! Well, I have always put my husnbad first. His job, his fishing, his softball, his basketball and I was perfectly ok with it. But, sense he had is verbal affair I have felt like a different person. I would have never done that to him. Is it wrong for me to want to put myself first now? I am tired of putting a man first. I kinda just wanna be on my own and take care of myself and my son. Go to school have firends and live my life for me. Is it totally wrong that I feel that way? I am very confused lately!Answer Question
Asked by Anonymous at 10:31 PM on Nov. 14, 2009 in Relationships
First step, never live for anyone else. Taking care of you will take care of the people around you. Even your children. Nurture your goals, hobbies, entertainment to make you a better you.
Second, it sounds like you are really hurt by what your husband did (rightfully so!) and have not forgiven him. You need to decide whether you want to pursue healing with him. Just because you stay married doesn't mean things have to go back the way the are. You can still refocus on your life and not cater 100% to your husband. You should actually be catering to and nurturing EACH OTHER so the relationship is not one sided.
I don't think its "wrong" to feel the way you do. I just don't recommend going out and doing it all without the thought process of knowing what you want to do with your marriage.
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