I love my inlaws, but they keep saying they don't think I like them (coming from hubby and brother in law). The reason I avoid their house, is because I am a server asthmatic, and very allergic to animals. They (there is 3 in their house) are all chain smokers, and have 5 dogs, and 6 cats in their house! It is a very old home (over 100 years old), and I have problems breathing in there. When I am there I am usually not talk-ative (due to trying to control my breathing). They have told others that I am making my allergies and asthma worse than they really are (my eyes get all puffy and I get hives all over my face and neck).
Now with going there for Thanksgiving I am hoping the weather is warm, so I can just stay outside. The past few years we always had it at our house, since we had a nice large dining room. This year we had to move and downsize and have not enough room to have 3 more people join us (we are a family of 6).
Just tell them flat out.... "I avoid your house, is because I am a server asthmatic, and very allergic to animals, and I have problems breathing in there. We have 2 kids with asthma and their Doc has specifically stated that we MUST keep them in a smoke free/allergen free enviroment for their health and safety!!" Then if that doesn't do it ask your MIL to accompany you to the your kids next doc visit for a little explanation of the effects of smoke/pet dander on children with asthma and allergies!!!
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Answer by 54313MomOf4Boys at 12:11 AM on Nov. 15, 2009
my mother-in -law has the same problem with asthma you could have your husband ask them to put the animals in another room and to not smoke in front of the children most of the smokers in my family will sneak out to the garage or my dad goes to his room when they want to smoke at family gatherings maybe try and have him emphasize the kids allergies or maybe take grandma to the doctors with you so that the doctor can explain the seriousness of yours and the kids allergies
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