I know what ya mean. It is like instatly that it comes out where I feel like there is no way in heck anything is swimming up! We have been trying for almost 2 years. I finally got the Instead cup last night. They are supposed to be for your period but I have read about a lot of women using them while ttc and it worked for them. Some people dont recommend it but at this point, I would rather try that than fertility drugs.