Most apaps are good people. But, I wonder if some lie and deceive us to make us go away, to not be part of their life. I know that some have admitted to wanted to "just get on with their families'". I wonder if this is sometimes what motivates them, when nothing was done on our parts. I'm just trying to figure out why some close adoptions, when there is NO cause. Blessings to all parts of the triad who contribute.Answer Question
Answer by hollyanne31 at 11:49 PM on Nov. 16, 2009
I closed our adoption after the birth mom started criticizing us on everything we did. We were patient with her but after 7 years of hate filled emails and criticism we cut off contact. I send pictures and a letter to her mother and she does not know where our new home is. I felt bad I know it was hard for her to give her twin sons up. It was also difficult having someone constantly bad mouth you over your parenting choices. I was tired of it. The boys did not want to see her anymore after she reminded them over and over how we were not their "real" parents. The boys know they are adopted they also know they are our real children and we love them. We wanted an open adoption but me spending 2 hours everyday dealing with the birth mom was getting ridiculous and I told her we were moving and would give her pictures and letter through her mom and I wanted nothing more to do with her.
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