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Question for those who Christmas shop for ILs (including BIL & SILs)

If you heard them say during a conversation they're just not going to buy anything this year (not money related, just because) would you also not buy anything?


Asked by Anonymous at 12:09 PM on Nov. 17, 2009 in Shopping

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Answers (8)
  • I would only buy for the in-laws if I can afford it, I wouldn't base it on whether they were buying or not.

    Answer by robyann at 2:20 PM on Nov. 17, 2009

  • Call them and ask.

    Answer by mompam at 12:11 PM on Nov. 17, 2009

  • It would take more than hearing them say during a conversation. I would need to say "So we aren't going to exchange Christmas presents anymore?" so call them and get it laid on the line. This way there won't be any misunderstanding. As to whether I'd get them something even if they said they aren't getting us anything, I think that I would not, because it might be uncomfortable otherwise. If I really wanted to get them something, I'd give them a small package of homemade cookies or a small homemade bread.

    Answer by Bmat at 12:12 PM on Nov. 17, 2009

  • I only buy for my family.....

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:12 PM on Nov. 17, 2009

  • If it wasn't a money related problem, then I would probably call them up and see if instead of giving gifts this year, if they wanted to get together and do something special instead. Also, another thought, it might be a money related problem and they don't want everyone knowing about their financial troubles. Either way I would call them and see what they wanted to do about Christmas gift giving. Maybe you can start a new tradition in your family this year.


    Answer by JeremysMom at 12:14 PM on Nov. 17, 2009

  • As long as we can afford it, we do gifts for them. Sometimes they haven't and usually my brothers don't, but that doesn't really matter to us. We have started to do family gifts (game, movie, or something) since we can't afford a lot.

    Answer by micheledo at 12:17 PM on Nov. 17, 2009

  • If you typically buy them a present and have the money then I think you should. Dont take it personally if you dont get a gift from them. Call and suggest a name exchange with them if it helps.


    Answer by 3gigglemonsters at 12:41 PM on Nov. 17, 2009

  • With my husband's sister we will usually email back and forth and decide on a set amount.

    Answer by Christina807 at 12:52 PM on Nov. 17, 2009