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What percentage should a husband leave to his second wife

after death if he has 2 grown kids and a large estate. What is fair?

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Asked by Anonymous at 1:44 PM on Nov. 18, 2009 in Money & Work

Answers (18)
  • However much he feels is appropriate..


    Answer by AngeLnChainZ at 1:45 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • were they still married? if no, he does'nt owe her anything he can leave the kids what he chooses

    Answer by shay1130 at 1:47 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • Yes, married and living out their lives together - both over 50.

    Answer by Anonymous at 1:49 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • well then are'nt you entitled to everything and have control over who gets what unless the kids are from a previous marriage. I would say get a lawyer. split it 3 ways or they can wait until you live out your days and die and then let them fight over it...still you are entitled to your share and you can let your kids have yours

    Answer by shay1130 at 1:55 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • It should be split equally between all of his kids and his current wife.

    Answer by missanc at 2:08 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • OP here - thanks for the feedback. That is what I thought - divided equally between his kids and the wife that is with him til parted by death.

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:28 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • In my opinion he should have done some estate planning with an attorney. I think leaving the kids and grandchildren some money would be appropriate, but the house and a good portion of his money should have been left to his wife that has been by his side through thick and thin. The kids have their entire lives to earn money and prepare for retirement. The wife has taken care of him when he was ill and was planning on living out the rest of her life with him. This is/was her retirement plan.

    Answer by slw123 at 3:23 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • I think there are to many unknown factors here. In my opinion the current wife should get half and the children should equally split the rest. However, if the children are not in good standing with their parent or haven't had contact with him in years, there isn't any reason to give them any! And then there is the option of leaving the wife less or more depending on there actual relationship - being married doesn't mean happy!

    Answer by SabrinaMBowen at 4:48 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • OP here - the grown children have a good relationship with their dad. And the marriage is happy. The discovery was recently made that the husband was intending to leave everything to the grown kids and the bare minimum to the wife to her shock. She is now asking only what is fair.

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:53 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

  • how do the kids feel about it? do they feel that it is wrong and you deserve your share

    Answer by shay1130 at 5:21 PM on Nov. 18, 2009

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