I get sick of people saying that because my son's adoption happened many years ago that I am not up on current adoptions and adoption practices. As a mom with grown children, I have had the time in the past 8 years since reunion to thoroughly study adoption, including conferences, retreats and other adoption related events. In addition, I have read extensively.... books, articles and blogs. Many of the birth moms that I know well are young moms in open adoptions. Just because my son's adoption was many years ago doesn't mean that I do not understand how adoptions function in 2009.Answer Question
Well you are right in that your opinion matters. While adoption may look different (in some cases) compared to adoptions a decade or more ago....it doesn't mean that the feelings and responses of those involved have changed. I believe that the loss and grief a birthmother goes through today is the same as the grief and loss birthmothers had prior to current adoption practices. The fear adoptive parents have and the concerns they have are just as strong today as they were years ago. And of course the feelings and responses an adoptee has to what has happenedto them, an action (no matter how loving) that was done to them, doesn't change because the practice of adoption and the process may look different. I guess my point is the pychology of adoption, IMHO, is the same even if the practices are different.
Answer by frogdawg at 9:12 PM on Nov. 18, 2009
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Answer by Southernroots at 12:23 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Baby Scoop Era-from after WW2 till around the mid 1970s.Though there are dates it also involved an era of profound shame.placed on unwed mothers.Unthinkable a unmarried woman would keep her baby.Maternity homes owned by adoption agencies flourished girls ,like me, were kept. there There was very limited access to the outside,phone calls were very very limited,even as a legal adult where you could go was limited, cars,checkbooks and more were not allowed.At delivery you were in the special room where all staff knew your status and was free to moralize.Once again no phone accesstill after adoption papers were signed.Not even the slightest concept of open adoption .As the stigma of sex outside of marriage dwindled and these people grew older and more women kept their babies these homes disappeared.It was baby scoop because babies were scooped away from their mothers without considering the mother could raise her child.cont
Answer by drfink at 12:43 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Southerroots do you have more to add?Frogdawg ,thank you.That is how I feel.You have said it so well there is nothing for me to add.
Answer by drfink at 12:49 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by doodlebopfan at 9:27 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
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Answer by Southernroots at 12:22 PM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by Southernroots at 12:27 PM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 12:39 PM on Nov. 19, 2009