Okay last April my husbands grandfather pasted away. . We never lied to her about death I explained it and why he past. She never cried and seemed to understand complete, my Daughter is very smart and understands things a 4 year old shouldn't, that's why I didn't lie about death, so you know. Every since then she talks about death alot. I figured it would pass. Well they other night she had a nightmare that I died, the fear in her eye's broke my heart, any tips on how i can put the subject of death to rest. i do not want her to dream like that again.Answer Question
Answer by MaryMW at 10:01 PM on Nov. 18, 2009
Answer by SusieD250 at 1:41 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
I'm sorry for your loss. I know it is difficult. We lost a fish about 2 years ago and my youngest became death obsessed. Everything was dead or dying. And he mentioned that the guppy died constantly. It was how he processed it. My FIL died this Aug. and it has been different. He knows that his Saba is gone but you can tell that this is different than losing a fish. A book that has been very helpful for us is The Tenth Good Thing About Barney by Judith Viorst. It is basically about pet loss, but it is a lot more. Even a very smart 4 yr old is still very young - they understand but they don't. We just keep emphasizing that it is ok to be sad and that Saba loved him very much and he carries that love in his heart, so it is always with him.
Answer by balagan_imma at 10:15 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by T.W. at 6:16 PM on Nov. 24, 2009
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