He is willing to talk with her for me, but he doesn't see it as inappropriate
MIL signed us up to get a free Thanksgiving dinner from charity, which we did not need, because she thought we were struggling. I know some people think I should be grateful, but I'm not. I'm angry. We're able to afford to buy Thanksgiving dinner. I was going to cook for our families. Now my first Thanksgiving as the host feels ruined because somebody who NEEDS the food won't get it, plus I had everything planned. I was excited about providing for my family. Understand, I have no issue with welfare or charity, but I do not want or need it.
My husband understands why I am upset about it, but he doesn't see it as meddling. He sees it as her trying to help because she sees we are struggling. He sees as a gift.
Similar incident: he had surgery so I took off work to take care of him for a week. She found out and "offered" to care for him
Answer by Steph319 at 5:47 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by Steph319 at 5:49 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Sounds like she has good intentions....she is trying to be helpful. Instead of getting angry or causing undue stress I would simply either call the place where she signed you up and ask them to remove your name OR if she already has the turkey and is bringing it to you take it to the local shelter or church that way it is still going to people in need.
As for his surgery...I don't see the big deal. My mother has come to care for me everytime I had a c-section...heck so has my MIL. We have three children and my husband works full-time, they were trying to help him out.
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