I am engaged to a man with two kids and he and his ex have shared custody so I see the kids 3 times a week or so. My fiance and I live in separate apartments so I am not a constant in their visits but recently his daughter said she wants to stay with us and not go home. She also started referring to me as mommy. Is there anything I should do? I told her that her mom and dad loved her so much that they had to share and so she had to go home to mom, but the mommy reference through me for a loop. Any thoughts?Answer Question
Answer by Anonymous at 9:59 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by luckysevenwow at 9:59 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Yes you should tell her that you aren't her mommy and to call you by your name or have her say step mommy. I would not be happy if I was the ex.
Answer by Anonymous at 10:00 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by 54313MomOf4Boys at 10:14 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by Anonymous at 10:16 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Yes talk to the bio mom and come up with a compromise. I could not see call my step-mom "step-mom" every time I called her. My neighbors are gay and have 3 kids, the oldest (the other 2 are babies) calls the one who did the birthing mom and the other is "gee". I don't know exactly how that happened but that is what he has always called her. Maybe something like that, not mom but some type of honorific name.
Answer by littleredpony at 10:33 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by admckenzie at 10:49 AM on Nov. 19, 2009
Answer by DevilInPigtails at 12:30 PM on Nov. 19, 2009