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Do men really find larger women attractive?

First off, I myself am about 30 lbs overweight. I think my SO is lying when he compliments me, and especially when he says "no you dont look fat". I honestly believe, if men had a choice between an overweight woman and a thin woman, they'd take the thin one in a heartbeat. I'm just saying, they don't say "damn she's sexy" when they see a fat girl walking down the street. I know it's on the inside that counts, yada yada yada, but what's the truth? Would a man really prefer his woman be in shape? I think yes.

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Asked by Anonymous at 12:44 AM on Nov. 20, 2009 in Just for Fun

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  • Some men prefer heavier women, and some men prefer skinnier women. Chances are if your husband was unhappy with your weight you would know it. BTW, Skinny doesn't automatically ensure someone is "in shape" i've seen heavier girls who were more in shape than girls who were 110lbs.

    Answer by AngeLnChainZ at 12:45 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • i'm sure some men do find larger women ain't no different than women and their preferences. i prefer a beefier guy, as i've never been attracted to a tall, skinny dude...or even simply thin men..i like something to hold onto, myself!

    Answer by thehairnazi at 12:49 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • I think yes too.

    But I am sure you have heard ot the song "Like the way you move" from Outkast

    Big girls need loving too...and I am sure ur dh is telling you the truth so go with it don't blow it...unless you want to blow

    Answer by Anonymous at 12:49 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • I am a firm believer that since my DH is brutally honest with me and everyone else that he is telling the truth. Yes, some men do find women more attractive with a little more weight on them. I was 110 when we got married. He liked me best at 140 something after babies. Still working to get back down....but he has commented without me asking on different celebs who he thinks "looked better when she was heavier." Its a matter of personal preference, but I think most skinny women look better heavier than they are. It gives them curves and softens them a bit. My DH likes my hips, big ol thighs, and boobs, so I'm good. LOL

    Answer by Katlyne120806 at 12:50 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • I wish I knew where it was so I could link it but a survey had been done on weather men would want a woman who was 10 pounds over weight or 10 pounds underweight and most men preferred the over-weight. But really it comes down to personal preference, some men like really scrawny girls and some men like a bigger girl. My best guy friend thought I looked better at 180 than I did at 150 and 150 is a healthy weight for me. My hubby loves me whatever weight I am at lol

    Answer by DianeMary at 12:55 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • My brother adores his 400 lb. GF, and I would also if she wasn't so rude, conniving, manipulative, a habitual liar and selfish.

    Answer by ItsMeGigi69 at 12:56 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • I am pretty overweight. Not in the 300s, but still... Anyway, he keeps telling me NOT to lose weight. He can't stand skinny chicks because they are too full of themselves, too bony (which he says hurts) and that they will be ugly as heck when they get older, from all the crap they put on/in themselves... HIS opinion.. I asked him how he knew their bony bodies hurt if he didn't like them, and he was honest. He told me that when he was younger, he went with skinny girls because his friends teased him for liking bigger girls. Poor guy! I guess he finally got tired of that. We've been together 10 years, and married for 8.


    Answer by NightPhoenix at 1:01 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • I think guys are just like women - some women like big guys, some women don't. It's just what each individual person prefers. :-D

    Answer by Blubuni99 at 1:23 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • I'm 240lbs and never had trouble attracting attention from the guys I knew. I had a boyfriend in college (when I was 195lbs) and there were 2 guys I worked with that wanted something with me but I wouldn't cheat on my boyfriend (flirted with them, though).
    I don't know about other men but I know my husband thinks I'm sexy. He tells me about fifty times a day. It's rather annoying after awhile. He's admitted to sabotaging my diets because he likes me the way I am and he likes me pregnant because then I get even bigger, lol. He's love me and find me sexy no matter what I looked like (I've gained about 45lbs since I met him thanks to having 4 kids).

    Answer by justanotherjen at 1:37 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

  • My husband is the type to tell me if a shirt looks terrible, so when he says he thinks I am beautiful I believe him. Im 15-20 lbs bigger than when we met, and he has said that if I just let myself go and got chubby it would bug him, but because I have given him two beautiful kids he thinks it makes me more beautiful. He also loves my stretch marks apparently because when he sees them he remembers everything I went through to bring our babies in the world. I think a real man loves his woman no matter what... Although I do still try to look nice for him and would like to lose the weight.... I am sure your man means it and loves you for you! <3

    Answer by SweetPea05 at 1:49 AM on Nov. 20, 2009

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