My husband and I have full custody of our 5 children. Two from his first marriage and three from mine. We have been together for four years. The kids are 15,14,13,12,and 6. They are all great kids and all love one another. They are "our" kids and we treat them equally and fairly with the same expectations for all.
However, my mother-in-law clearly favors my husbands two sons. She showers them with gifts on holidays and birthdays, sends them new clothes and shoes, mails them cards with money... My kids have not complained. But, it is such an obvious difference that it makes all the children feel uncomfortable. I really dread the holidays because I know she will continue to do this despite my husband's request that she spend x dollars on each of the kids. I don't want to isolate the kids from her family. But, I feel so badly for the three kids watching as their two brothers open gifts after gift. What to do?
Asked by Anonymous at 10:37 AM on Nov. 20, 2009 in General Parenting
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Answer by DusterMommy at 11:07 AM on Nov. 20, 2009
If she was giving "her grandchildren" each one gift I would say ignore it. But since she is going completely overboard you have to do something. I'm inclined to send back the extras or even let the two getting gifts give to the other three and then send the extras back with an explanation of how your family choose to "fix" her rude display of favoritism. Your husband needs to continue to take the lead in dealing with his mom. I think you will get this all worked out. GL
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