You just do it. You can't worry about him. If you don't want to be with him, then you have to let go and let him be, regardless of what he ends up doing. I have an ex that is still hung up on me, but I don't worry about what he is or isn't doing, b/c I don't want to be with him and if I continue to worry about him, then I might as well be with him. I refuse to let him have that kind of power over my life. Cut off all contact with him (or at least limit it to only contact regarding the kids, if you have kids together), and just force yourself to stop wondering what he's doing. If you find yourself thinking about him, force your mind to other things. It'll take some time, but you can do it.
at 11:32 AM on Nov. 21, 2009