We are going to my mil's for dinner. My bil and sil and their families will be there. It's always tense because the bil has very little to do with his family to the point that we do not know their children well and visa versa. The youngest don't even know who we are. His wife is friendly when others are aroung but does not talk to me otherwise. For get togethers she traditionally sits somewhere and doesn't move, or get up to say hi. It's nine years of this and the last event, I decided to just have a nice time, not worry about where or what she was doing. Now, my bil doesn't say hello either. One of these siblings is always in the dog house and my MIL is the culprit IMO. She has a divide and conquer like behavior. I can't fix it or change it...I've tried. What do you recommend? I want to be comfortable in my own skin.
Answer by Bmat at 8:16 AM on Nov. 22, 2009
Just ignore them and go about your day. I have a strained relationship with some of my family members as well. I decided a few years back that I would not let them make my life miserable, so I just do my thing at the family get togethers and let them do theirs. I'm very nice to them so I'm not seen as the grumpy one. Good luck.
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