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husband and child support

How would you feel if your husbands ex has 3 children with 3 different men, but only takes your husband to court for support then threatens to increase it even though he has paid every month? Would you feel like he was supporting all her children?

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Anonymous

Asked by Anonymous at 1:53 PM on Nov. 22, 2009 in Relationships

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  • It doesn't matter what or who she spends the support on. Once it's out of his hands, it's hers.. You may not agree with how she lives her life but he has an obligation to help support the child they made together. Her life is none of your business. If you knew that he had this obligation before you married him then it shouldn't matter..
    MrsLeftlane

    Answer by MrsLeftlane at 2:05 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • it does matter who she spends the support on, he is not there to support the other 2 and the only reason she threatens to go after more is because the other 2 dads dont pay...she had the other kids after they split
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:08 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • The other ones are prob dead beats. did she have 2 kids when he had one with her? Hmmm
    Mrs.Oriaku

    Answer by Mrs.Oriaku at 2:08 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • The courts know he's obligated for the one child, and that's how they'll do the figures.
    EireLass

    Answer by EireLass at 2:13 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • so what if she takes the money and uses it for the other children, as long as he's taking care of his responsibilities for that child that the court orders him to pay, does it matter where it's going? hell, she could be taking it and getting manis and pedis but you wouldn't even know.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:28 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • it does matter where its going, especially if shes going after him for more support because she needs 4 bdrms instead of 2, so hes paying for 3 bdrms instead of 1, the extra food to feed the other kids, child care for her other kids...i really dont think its fair that he support all her children
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 2:33 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • If the other dad's are deadbeats--

    Is it fair to only feed one child because that child's dad is paying support and the other two aren't? You wouldn't serve one child a meal and says sorry Suzy's dad bought Suzy groceries and your dad hasn't bought anything for you so sorry no dinner? No a mom would treat all three children equally. As far as going to court to get more, she can try, but I doubt she will get anything more unless he's had a pay increase recently.
    Lesli

    Answer by Lesli at 2:46 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • the court knows that only one of the children is his and that's all the court will order him to pay for, but the court can't control how she decides to spend the money. As long as his child is fed and has clothes to wear and a roof over his head, there's nothing you can do.
    missanc

    Answer by missanc at 4:16 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • No he's not paying for 3 bdrms instead of 1. He's paying her for carrying his child for nine mos and raising her/him. It shouldn't matter how the money is spent. As long as his child is living comfortably b/c of the extra money then why the fuck do you care? the only way her pay can increase is if his pay increased. If it bother's you so much then try to get custody of the child. then you won't have to worry about CS
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 4:47 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

  • Stepmothers like you give the rest a bad name. HE HAD THIS CHILD BEFORE YOU! His primary obligation is to THIS child and not you. Get a grip, get over your jealousy. Court will give the child support they see fit for the child that is his you have NO say. Get over your self and see that as long as your step child has all of his needs met THAT is what is the most important.
    Anonymous

    Answer by Anonymous at 5:13 PM on Nov. 22, 2009

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